Recently I had a pleasure of meeting Devesh Kumar in Amsterdam, who presented himself to me as a coach for coaches. As a happiness coach myself I was skeptical. I am constantly learning, building my business and helping other people to overcome their success barriers and here he was claiming to be able to coaches like me and other people who are even more successful than I am.
After first few hours of spending with him I canceled all plans that I could and dedicated to spend this time around him, learning whatever I could because he would soon leaving.
Devesh taught me a lot, so I wanted to share few things that I learned from him. First, I learned Value of Humility. It is important to be humble, because no one can know everything. Still, there are people out there who understand certain things better that I ever can and they can teach me a lot. This is why even the most successful hire consultants and outsource work. Because they can never know everything as well as someone else can. Indeed every person is special in a specific area of his life and it is job of everyone else to discover the value of people who surround us. Still some people like Devesh are just “Secret Treasures of Universe” (as he was publically called). Almost everything that he says is interesting and important, or at least it was the case of me. With some people you do have to have hour-long conversation to find that one piece of gold, but with other people like Devesh the gold is just pouring out of him. In the cases, I always suggest that people shut up and listen to people the person who is offering value, specially if they are willing to do so. As you may know, many people are so consumed by their own world that they rather speak and give their opinions than listen, even is they don’t know anything about what they are talking about.
The opposite is also true. In some areas of the life, we are going to be an expert on a topic. In these areas we have value to offer and than it is our responsibility to lead on the conversation. Between these two situations being – expert and novice – a person has to find a middle point – to talk and to listen. This is a true value of personal maturity.
Second thing I learned from Devesh is the Spiral Dynamic Model. It is a bit technical to describe it, so I suggest for you to do your own research, but I will try my best to summarize it in a paragraph. Essentially, the models says that people are in different stages of the maturity based on the position they find themselves in a spiral. For example, most people in the modern world are in the 4th step (red) of the spiral, which is the part where people follow the rules and social guidelines. It is a corporate and structured mentality position. The next two stages are orange and green, whereas orange is entrepreneurial and value creating process, and green is all about sharing with others. People cannot go between different stages before mastering previous steps, such as previous steps will sabotage the next ones for unprepared people, almost like people who lose it all after winning a lottery.
Lastly, Devesh proposed me to go on a 7 Day Information Diet, whereas I don’t read, listen to any audio courses, or watch any information reach video, which took a big part of my time. Doing these activities is similar to watching TV, playing video games, or listening to music, in my opinion, whereas in first case it is an activity of reach minded people and the second one is of the poor minded ones (according to Rich Dad, Poor Dad book by Robert Kiyosaki). Still, I needed to practice this diet because I already had too much information in my head.
“With 1% of the information that you currently possess, you could absolutely change someone’s life.” – Devesh Kuram
In fact, Devesh insisted that I already have everything I need to be successful, that I need to focus on it now and stop illusion that I need something else before I can be successful. Indeed there is no end to learning and to personal growth, which is perfectly exemplified by a 17 year old friend of Devesh, who was traveling with him at same time, who was making more money in a week than I was in a year. The true success is a mindset, which will attract the money in your life if you assume it, as the contrary mindset will sabotaging a person to a life of mediocrity and settling in to much less that we deserve and can reach in our lives.